A clinical psychologist, Dr. Beth Grosshans retired from her practice in 2012. Among accomplishments Dr. Beth Grosshans maintains from her career is the publishing of Beyond Time-Out: From Chaos to Calm. In the book, she writes about the imbalance of family power.
Imbalance of family power is the result of you lacking control in the parent-child relationship. Rather, a majority of the power has been transferred to your child, thus causing challenges when enforcing authority.
A good way to know if there is an imbalance of family power involves evaluating your child’s reluctance to act appropriately when you make an authoritative request. If he or she responds negatively with crying or tantrums, or attempts to undermine you, those responses indicate the power lies primarily with the child. Another way to measure imbalance consists of analyzing the amount of time spent handling specific situations. Consider the power in your favor if you spend less than 30 percent of your time managing adverse scenario.
An experienced child and family psychologist, Dr. Beth Grosshans has treated patients of all ages. Dr. Beth Grosshans, author of Beyond Time Out, currently consults with schools and families to develop power dynamics that are healthy for children’s development.
First published in 2008, Beyond Time Out serves as a response to the current prevalence of uncontrolled children and chaotic families. The book describes these trends as a result of parents feeling that they lack control over their children. Beyond Time Out explains that children know when adults no longer have control, and that this awareness causes them to feel anxious and insecure. Not having the skills to cope with this insecurity, they act out.
Beyond Time Out attributes this power imbalance to contemporary parenting styles The book explains that the past half century has taught parents how to nurture and support their children but has neglected to teach them to lead. The book instructs parents on how to communicate clearly and presents an actionable five-step strategy known as the Ladder, which can help parents regain control and reestablish a family power dynamic that makes children feel safe.